I’ve been thinking about death and religion a lot lately because as some of you may know, and I’m sick of saying it, my father just passed away. It’s something I had put out of my head for a good long time because I had done my dwellings on matters of the metaphysical and where you might go in death according to ancient peoples. It isn’t so much that I’m questioning my own ideas right at the moment because my sense of mortality has been shot back into my consciousness but rather that religion and faith was something that mattered to my father.
He was a firm believer in Jesus Christ. He was never the type of man to tell you that you’re evil, because he had enough evil to match anyone for the most part. He never spat bible verses at people but he would tell you that Jesus loved you and he’d thank the lord on a regular basis, which always made me feel uncomfortable because I felt like I was making things awkward for him by not reciprocating those feelings of religiosity. While he was slipping into the darkness his side of my family and I came together and there was also that same discomfort and sense that I’m pissing on their only hope.
Let’s talk about heaven?
Let’s not.
These are people I don’t want to hurt. With anyone else I could coldly state that I’m fairly against superstition but not with these people. I’m sure this is old hat to a lot of people I know because they have such frequent contact with family but I’m pretty unfamiliar with the concept of family, extended or not. I’ve been a lone-wolf of the highest degree and I’m a total anomaly when it comes to family history.
Point being, it got me thinking about them and their concept of heaven. I’d like to tell you what absolutely scares the hell out of me about the concept of heaven in general. Invasion of privacy! That’s right, invasion of my privacy. When people tell me that someone will be up there looking down on me I just have to think, if this were true then what exactly is the extent of this looking down?
Are there rules to this? Can this person watch me in all my petty bullshit or do they only get my profile? Personally, I’m dismayed by the concept of anyone related to me knowing what I do when I don’t want anyone to know what it is I’m doing. Is there a prayer of “Don’t watch me while I’m down” that we’re supposed to follow with “amen” in this world where people invade our privacy when we’re officially the survivors? Religion needs to include these types of things; when is the next Council of Nicaea so I can forward my suggestion?
What about omniscience? How much of this is granted to ghosts? Do they now know not just what I’m doing now but what I’ve done as well? If so, that’s no good at all. It isn’t that I’m ashamed; I’m just not comfortable with it. It’s comparable to the insecurity of a fat kid not wanting to go swimming.
I see now how this whole “looking down on us” thing works on the average religious person. I’ve never had anyone relevant to me put into that whole scenario of being dead and looking down by someone else. It’s an effectively scary thought. It’s like all of those things you don’t say to spare the feelings of another get ripped out of you by a cosmic force and put into the ear of the dearly departed and I have to think, if this were the case, that’d be no heaven.
I also have to ask myself, if people really believe this, how can they honestly continue to think and act as they do when that judgment is so all encompassing from above? I don’t think they believe it as much as they’d like to think they do otherwise they’d find it a whole lot more disconcerting than I do as a non-religious person.
Ultimately my question is why am I so different that I think about it on this level? I wish I could just take it at face value and not have fictionalized versions of the laws of universe irritating me. Even further, this is just one more barrier in my communicating anything meaningful to almost everyone I’ll ever meet because they’ll never get it and I’ll make their religiosity awkward for them.
The existentialist at a funeral is a big black splotch. I’m the big silent embodiment of negation. I’m the grim reaper of hopes and emotional solutions. This is how I feel when I’m met with the urge to be honest or to be myself.
These sayings of hope do me no good.
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